Are you a flirt? 

So its that time of the year again where flowers, balloons, chocolates, pink and also red heart shaped cards are being bought as (what it seems like) everyone displays various acts of love to their significant other. Firstly I want to start with a question; Are you a flirt? An evangelist once asked this question during a sermon and ever since I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it.

I consider myself to be a flirt. Yes, I said it, as much as I probably wouldn’t like to admit it. I am a flirt. You may be asking why am I telling you this? And what do I mean by this?Let’s have a look at the definition. A flirt is the noun for a person who flirts.  

Definition of Flirt

While I was writing this post I asked a few friends what they thought about flirting, whether it was right or wrong, whether it was pointless or purposeful? I got very interesting comments and opinions which I will be sharing  through this post. With regards to the points in red, you may agree with some and disagree with others but I think they all important and helpful in understanding the concept of flirting with God. 

I am a flirt. I sometimes act as though I am interested in God, I wanna know about him. I say to him I want to strengthen our relationship by getting to know him more. In what ways may that be? By speaking to him more of course, by reading about Him, what He has done. What better place than His very own word -The Bible. So I make appointments with him. I say I’ll speak with Him in the morning but then I may be in a hurry when I wake up, so I end up rushing and squeezing in a little conversation. Or I may completely forget because the first thing I have done that morning is pick up my phone and scroll down my snapchat story list or twitter timeline. Once again he has been sidelined.  After feeling guilty for doing so I promise that I will speak to Him at night and even read a bit about Him, but somehow I miss that appointment as well. I sit back now and ask myself “Why am I flirting with God for my own amusement?, why do I say I will spend quality time with Him knowing that I don’t intend to because I am engaged in other things.  I show a superficial interest in God, or the idea of spending time with Him, getting to know Him, without committing myself seriously. I am not keeping it real with God. Are you?

The Bible says on countless occasions it’s important to know God. We are told to “pursue godliness”.  1 Timothy 4:7b says; we should “exercise yourself toward godliness.”.  I love the way the message translation puts it: Exercise daily in God—no spiritual flabbiness, please! Workouts in the gymnasium are useful, but a disciplined life in God is far more so, making you fit both today and forever. So there is no point in flirting with God we need to exercise ourselves towards true godliness.

Flirting is pointless if you know it is not going anywhere.

  • How would you feel if a guy or girl was flirting with you, but didn’t really plan to take things further in order to build a lasting & proper relationship. You would feel like you wasted your time wouldn’t you?
  • Don’t show a superficial interest in God knowing full when you don’t plan to spend quality time with Him. He wants your ALL, he wants a relationship with you.

There needs to be a substance out of flirting.

  • Even if we find ourselves flirting with God it is possible to eventually build a lasting relationship with him. We make the appointments to spend time with Him because we are interested in Him. He is interested in us as well he wants us to draw near to him so that we may be able to taste and see that He is good. He wants to shower us abundantly with His love.

You can’t be flirting forever… that’s rubbish. Flirting can be a process into a relationship.

  • Maybe before we know Christ, or God flirting may be acceptable. We are interested in Him but we have not been able to truly experience a personal and loving relationship with Him. However there needs to a point when we become one with Him and take Him more seriously.
  • When I meet my appointed time with God, I truly have a fulfilling time.Through flirting we will eventually fall in love with God and have a purposeful relationship.

You have to distinguish between flirts and time wasters

  • In a relationship where you are flirting with God and not intending to spend quality time with him you are wasting your own time.

Flirting is fun. Flirting could be flirting banter… Flanter!

  • Some say it’s fun, but should we truly be playing around with God. He takes us very seriously. By playing around with him we are in essence ridiculing the sacrifice he made many years ago when He sent His Son to die for us,

Flirting is is a problem when you are leading someone on.

  • Don’t lead God on. Stay faithful to him, in the same way he remains faithful to us. He keeps His word.

If you were interested in multiple guys or girls you could potentially flirt with all before you find one and settle. And this is the same with God, when we flirt with God we also flirt with other gods. Hasn’t God commanded us to Love Him?  Our love becomes divided when we flirt with other gods. God is a jealous God; He wants us to put him first in our lives. He doesn’t want to be another “love fling”. We are encouraged in God’s word to “Set [our] affection on things above, not on things on the earth”.( Colossians 3:2) God wants us to “love things above” he urges us to set our minds, thoughts, emotions and desires on heavenly things. These things are eternal and have higher significance, than the things we focus on while we are here on earth. To set out affections on things above means to look at life from God’s perspective and to seek what He desires. This is the antidote to materialism. The more we see the life around as God sees it, the more we live in harmony with Him. We must not become too attached to what is temporary. We need to be people after God’s very own heart.

Yes by flirting with God we keep in contact with Him, but we need more than that. We need to be truly committed to God. He doesn’t want mere contact time, he wants to develop a deep and personal relationship with us. Deep within our hearts, we desire to develop a strong relationship but the devil tries to keep us occupied with so many other things we end up developing a flirtationship. My prayer for us all is that God circumcises our hearts so that we may love him with all heart and with all our soul!

Have a lovely day!

Stay Blessed,

Dara  ♡

P.S- Have a great valentines day! Even if you are spending it single, like myself…remember God loves you abundantly. If you want to find out more about God’s great love check out last year’s Valentine’s day post : No Greater Love.

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No Greater Love

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So it’s Valentine’s day…Love is in the air. 💘 You may be celebrating the day with that special significant other ( aka your bae) or maybe like me you are spending the evening indoors with siblings, whatever it is you are doing I just wanted to share with you a love that is true, real and genuine. This sort of love can be extended into ALL our relationships, not only the lovey dovey ones. 💑 In our 21st century society we are constantly bombarded with adverts, movies and songs that display shallow love. However the Holy Book itself has something to say about love.I’m sure we are all aware of this very famous passage in 1st Corinthians 13, which describes what love is;

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Our society often confuses love and lust. Unlike lust, God’s kind of love is directed outwards towards others, not inward towards ourselves. It is utterly unselfish. This type of love is not natural. It is only possible if God helps us set aside our own desires and instincts, so we can give love while expecting nothing in return. Thus the closer we become to Christ, the more love we will be able to show others.

Now what is the greatest love? “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” John 15:13. Christ’s love towards us all was demonstrated not only in his words but also in his sacrificial death. We are to love one another as Jesus loved us, and he loved us enough to give his life for us. Woww!! even though he knew that we might not love him back. No, I’m not saying we are going to have to die for someone, but there are other ways to practice sacrificial love: listening, helping, encouraging, giving. On this day think of someone in particular who needs this kind of love today. Give ALL the love you can towards him/her.

Blaise Pascal said: There is a God shaped vacuum in the heart of every man (& woman) which cannot be filled by any created thing, but only by God, the Creator, made known through Jesus. Today in our society it is very common to see couples together, treating themselves and displaying their love for one another. For someone that is single like myself, it is possible to question how can I fill that “empty” vacuum in my heart. “I want that love, affection that others receive”, but the truth is that nobody on earth is capable of making you complete. No matter how many love letters, surprising gifts, warm hugs or sweet kisses one receives they are not able to fill that vacuum in your heart. Don’t get me wrong you can gain happiness in such a relationship but you may find yourself still longing for a greater love. This greater love that will fill the vacuum in your heart is that of Christ who died JUST FOR YOU! What you long for is the love that is never ending and unconditional.

Now ladies listen up💃 … whether you are single, dating, married, young or old there is a man who is passionately in love with you. That man is Jesus Christ! He loves you soooo much more in a second than your future husband or boyfriend can in your entire lifetime. His love is everlasting, no matter how many times you fall out, disagree or forget/neglect him ; He will always be around waiting for you to come rushing into his wide arms. Guys… it’s okay to love your ladies. But you should always remember that “You shall have no other gods before God” Deuteronomy 5:7. Don’t put the love you have for others, higher than the love you have for God. If you love God with all your heart, when the time is right you’ll find your perfect match. Till then focus on your loving father in heaven.

Whether you are alone on this Valentine’s day or you are being showered with love by your significant other, always remember that God shows his love towards you everyday through his Grace. Even though he cannot buy you flowers and chocolate, he bought YOU eternity with Him when he sent His Son to you. Check out No greater love by Smokie Norful (below)

Stay Blessed,

Dara x